️NOTE TO SELF: When different realities bump into each other and clash, there's ALWAYS something to learn.
Much to my chagrin, I wish I'd realized this sooner before I flew off my handle this morning!
Long story short, there's a person in my life who continually overdoes it with the self-agrandissement; everything from vacations to clothes, to restaurant adventures... so much so, it has gotten really exaggerated, and annoying! And boy was it triggering something in me today.
I was working myself into a lather and somehow, in an effort to placate my ego I began to come up with all sorts of depreciating assumptions about her life and motives, and I wondered where that came from? I can admit it, I was in full survival mode, trying to preserve the status quo of me feeling "comfortable". But;
• I knew I was losing power
• I didn't feel comfortable
• I didn't want to explore why I was so triggered
Then, after meditating & praying to my Angels for assistance, surprise surprise, I had an epiphany...
Isn't it funny, that if WE are in fact the creators of our own realities, and WE then attract in people to act out those manifestations that match our same vibration, then how come WE sometimes get upset/uncomfortable/unsettled at said people's actions? Why do WE then purposefully try to make others see our point of view? Why do we blame others for their actions? We do we continue to fight each other to be right?
The easy answer is because as humans, we resist CHANGE. Even if it's good change. We like to have things our way. But that's not realistic, or healthy.
I asked myself if there was anything I could do about her behaviour... the answer was NO.
Secondly, I asked myself if she had the right to create her life as she saw fit? The answer was YES, of course. Who was I to determine that she should change to make me more comfortable?
Thirdly, I asked myself what I was feeling. I had to get REAL and dig deep: the answer came up quite quickly... it was that I AM uncomfortable with tooting my own horn. And I was angry (and if truth be told a little envious) that she could do it so easily! Gulp.
I realized that SHE was holding up a mirror for me to recognize my feelings. What a gift I had received!
A-ha! Now I was on to something. I suddenly remembered in that moment that the Universe is always helping us evolve and grow. Always. Even if it's uncomfortable and unsolicited lol...
TAKE-AWAY:
What if all interactions, triggers and traumas with other people were easily fixable by us, and empowering? ️️
What if whenever an undesirable feeling came up, we assesed OUR feelings about how the interaction made US feel, and then self-corrected?
Has this ever happened to you? Where you've gone ahead and created assumed personality traits for someone to match their actions because they've made you FEEL something you didn't want to feel? AND, held on to that judgement for months, maybe years??!?
I know I have made assumptions about others, not knowing at all what the truth actually was, but that's just silly. Imagine how much energy is wasted on us wanting things to be our way? Living within our own perceptions? When in fact there's billions of possibilities out there!
In this moment, I had to let go. I challenged myself to sit with my feelings and reframe this situation as a lesson I was learning . I replaced the negative vibes I was sending out with more loving, kind ones, and lastly forgave myself for what I didn't know before.
And that's how I pulled my power back to overcome this trigger. Not easy, but worth it, AND I learned something about myself I didn't know, but can now release.
Now I can work on tooting my own horn easily and with confidence. I'll keep you posted as to how it turns out.
J. Xox
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*Disclaimer: I am not a licensed physician and do not claim that any lifestyle ideas or theories presented in this video guarantee the curing of any physical, emotional or spiritual ailments. Anything expressed are personal opinions and should be taken for personal reflection purposes only.
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